Replying to Bonnie from My Bottom Smarts

Bonnie from My Bottom Smarts posed an interesting question:

Have you tried to introduce the subject of spanking to your partner? Did your partner first raise the topic to you? If so, what approach did you or your partner use and how well did it work? If you had the same opportunity again, would you proceed in a similar fashion?

To answer your question Bonny, I believe in taking the direct approach and doing so early on in a relationship. I don’t like to beat around the bush. (Ok, that gave me a funny visual – I didn’t mean it THAT way). I’ve had the best luck in new relationships with just brining up the topic of sexual kinks. I ask my partner, potential partner, what she likes or what really turns her on. Then I mention my spanko fetish. If she is turned off by the idea of spanking or has no interest at all in it well that is something I want to know ahead of time. Relationships without spanking are just not as fun.

I learned this the hard way though. It is a lot harder when you have been in a relationship for some time and you have never broached the subject. You ask your partner what really turns them on and they say something like, “Scented candles and a back rub” and you are thinking, “A leather strap and bottom marks.” That can be tricky. So I’ve vowed to just be honest up front and I think that is the best way.

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